Ben, Barry, Allen, Jason, and I have
been in a discussion after reading a blog by another type 2. We
agree with some of what she says about the CGM and insulin pump, but
most of the rest, we are in full disagreement. We may be of thicker
skin than most people with type 2 diabetes and we don't get too upset
with people that make comments about not eating something and we just
tell them off, if they become too bullying in nature.
In general, we look at most encounters
as teaching moments and we sometimes are a bit aggressive in what we
teach, but we never put a hand on anyone or physically threaten them.
Three of us needed to leave a gathering for a birthday party
recently, because of two people that thought they were diabetes
experts, were just following us around making snide comments about
the food we were eating and not eating. Education was not working
and even suggesting that they leave us alone only caused them to
become more annoying.
We felt better after leaving and called
the host and before Allen even started to apologize, he said he was
the one that needed to apologize as he was not aware of how they felt
about people with diabetes and if he had, he would not have invited
them. Allen thanked him and said if the party had been smaller, we
might have acted differently.
None of our support group uses an
insulin pump, except our honorary type 1 who is away at college. We
don't use CGMs and therefore we don't have to answer questions about
these that often, but occasionally we are asked why we don't use
them. This is an easy question for us as Medicare will not authorize
the use of continuous glucose monitors and won't pay for them.
Most of the people are very receptive
to diabetes education, with the exception of the two above. We are
not afraid to talk about diabetes and even the possible
complications. Yes, we receive some of the classic dumb questions
like, you ate too much sugar, but we use education to turn these into
positives and often people are surprised and receptive as well.
We do have people that try to tell us
what we should and should not eat, but they get the surprise when we
explain why we won't eat what they suggest and then explain why we
consume the foods we do. Most, but not all, really listen to what we
are telling them and many ask good questions. Jason says he enjoys
giving education when this happens. We agreed with him.
We are upset by several bloggers that
nit-pick issues and are upset because people ask certain questions.
We don't know why they are not able to turn these into positives and
education. Maybe we are fortunate that we use each other to bounce
ideas off and talk through difficult areas. We have plenty of
experience doing this and being retired really helps us in knowing
when to push education.
Tim stopped by as we discussing our
disagreement with what a few bloggers have written and asked why we
were so angry. Allen said because we don't understand them and why
they are so thin skinned. Jason said we have each other to talk to
and get prepared for some questions. He added that most of us have
no problems of turning situations that they are complaining about
into positives and good education.
Tim said that is why we try to have a
positive attitude and use education whenever possible. He admitted
that some people are not able to do this and have trouble in many
situations because they are too busy and can't or won't take the time
for education like we are able to do when the questioner is not in a
hurry.
Allen said this is why we need to not
become so upset with others that do not have some of the skills we
have acquired.