In the last blog, we found ourselves
dealing with two individuals not wanting to share information about
their diabetes. A couple of days later Brenda asked us to meet
again. She said the woman was in the hospital and she was not sure
what had happened. The hospital had called her and she would be the
one picking up the woman's two children as she would be still be in
the hospital. The hospital had called the school and a teacher would
bring out the children after the buses had pulled away. She would
know the car to look for and had the license number.
We said that was good and she and Sue
would need to attempt to find out the cause for the hospital
admission. Was it for hypoglycemia, possibly for hyperglycemia, or
another cause? Brenda said that is the plan. Brenda needed to leave
then and Sue said she would meet her at the hospital and report back
later.
Jason said that he and Ben had another
meeting with the other fellow, but did not have any more information.
He refuses to discuss anything about diabetes. I suggested bringing another member and
pushing him a little. Ben was hesitant, but said it may drive him
away completely. Jason agreed, but felt that it would be better to
drive him completely away than not talk to us. We need to convince
him that talking would be a benefit to him and management of his
diabetes. I suggested taking Allen with them and Jason said good.
Two days later, Brenda had us together
again and said that a lot of progress was made with the woman. Sue
had talked with her doctor and he agreed with her need to educated
the eldest daughter and said he would lead the discussion. Yes, it
was an episode of hypoglycemia that had put her in the hospital and
the doctor really emphasized to the patient for not educating the
oldest child and teaching her what to do when an episode of
hypoglycemia happens.
This time she was fortunate that the
oldest daughter called 911 and the ambulance crew thought to check
her blood glucose. The woman said she did not want her children to
know about her diabetes. The doctor asked if she wanted to die and
the children blaming themselves for not knowing what to do. Brenda
said the woman still refused to tell her children. The doctor then
asked her if her youngest daughter developed cancer, should that be
withheld from her. With that, the woman blew and said that was very
different. The doctor said it was still family and being an adult or
a child was a small difference.
The woman asked Brenda what she would
do. Brenda said she would tell her children which is what she had
done as soon as she went on insulin and never thought twice about
this. Brenda said she felt better, when the family knew and what to
do in cases she could not act. She then told the woman that she had
obeyed her wishes when they asked what was wrong with their mother.
This shows they are concerned and want to know. If the doctor had
not called her and instead called a neighbor, what would they have
said if they had heard the ambulance people talking about her blood
glucose levels.
The woman said she would have to think
about this as she had not even told her parents. She said her
husband knew, but outside of her doctor and the hospital doctor, she
was not aware of anyone else but the two of them. Her doctor said
that she should consider talking to her children as they would ask
more questions of her and then more probing questions of their dad
and her repeatedly. They know something is wrong and they will want
to know more now that you have been in the hospital.