Is Your Doctor Listening to You?
Establishing a strong doctor-patient relationship often depends more on you, the patient. This is
sometimes difficult during the first few times you meet with the
doctor. There are several steps you must accomplish to
know that you have the right doctor and can establish a good
communication between you. This will also determine the extent of
your trust and desire to build a relationship with the doctor.
Probably one of the first steps will be
in finding out during the first visits if the doctor uses the
“cookbook medicine approach” or the “your story first
approach.” It is important to know these as this will determine
how you prepare for your visit. Both are polar opposites in their
approach and you need to determine which is a better fit for you. I
know I prefer the second approach, but I do have one doctor that uses
the first approach. There are variations on both approaches and this
can be a challenge. I know this because another doctor lets you tell
your story first and then goes into the cookbook medicine approach
and I had better answer his questions with a yes or no. When he has
finished, then I can normally fill in the blanks that he has missed.
This may or may not start another round of questions.
His method has resulted in my being
more specific when I start and leaving the unrelated material for his
questions. As we have perfected this over the years, he has modified
his questions to allow for some detail and I give it to him as
briefly as I can. One day when I was there for a checkup, or
semiannual appointment, nothing was bothering me and I said as much.
He stopped, looked at me, and casually asked what to do next. I said
cover the lab results and we did, in more detail than he has ever
done before. When he finished this, he asked if I had any questions.
I told him that he had answered the questions I had as he covered
the lab results, and I said we were done. He looked like I had just
defeated him in an extended tennis match. I told him to take
advantage of the extra time for his next patient and he seemed to
recover immediately. He thanked me and told me to set up my next
appointment in six months, and handed me the lab request sheet for
the next appointment to give the person setting up the next
appointment. Then he headed for the next exam room.
The next appointment started out the
same and this time he handed me my copy of the lab results saying
everything was good and did I have any questions. I said no and he
handed me the lab request sheet and said to set up the next
appointment in a year. He stopped and then said if I did need to see
him before then, paused, and decided to walk out with me to the desk
for the next appointment and gave her the instructions and told her
to note on my record that if I needed to see him before the next
appointment – to schedule an appointment. She put her name and
extension number on the appointment slip to use if I needed an
appointment earlier than scheduled. It is this type of relationship
that I have learned to treasure, but it took some time and learning
how the doctor functioned.
I have another doctor that is all
together different. He enters the exam room and asks me questions
related to the reason for my appointment. Once he is sure I am there
for the stated problem, it is all business of my explaining what has
happened and when. Sometimes, because of the problem, I have had
tests done beforehand and at other times after he is sure I need the
tests. While he is waiting the test results, he moves onto another
patient and then returns with the completed test results. Most of
the time he tells me that here is a prescription for 10 days and
communicates with me about calling for another appointment if this
does not correct the problem. Because this has been a lifetime
problem, he knows I know what to do and is very careful about
repeated episodes.
The most interesting of my doctors has
been the person I see for diabetes. There it is discussion of my A1c
and the meter readings. She could spot trouble areas in a glance and
knew what to ask. I am very sorry to see her leave the diabetes
clinic. Now I will need to see how the next person handles the
appointment. I will need to be on my toes to discern how I will be
treated.
I am concerned about the new procedures
being handed me by several of my doctors and I sense I am being
slowly being pushed out of their practices because of Medicare. It
may be because of the 2% cut or for other reasons that are being
implemented in the affordable care act. Tests are being cut and I am
being directed to the VA for more of my care.